{"id":96,"date":"2026-05-02T17:09:22","date_gmt":"2026-05-02T17:09:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cota.org\/cotaforbensfight\/?p=96"},"modified":"2026-05-02T17:09:23","modified_gmt":"2026-05-02T17:09:23","slug":"what-i-wish-people-understood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cota.org\/cotaforbensfight\/2026\/05\/02\/what-i-wish-people-understood\/","title":{"rendered":"What I Wish People Understood"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There are a lot of things I wish people understood about this journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not because anyone does anything wrong\u2026 &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">but because unless you\u2019ve lived it, it\u2019s hard to truly know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I wish people understood that even on the good days\u2026 &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">there\u2019s still a weight that never fully goes away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can be smiling, laughing, watching your child play\u2026 &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">and still have this quiet thought in the back of your mind:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What if something changes?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I wish people understood that \u201che looks fine\u201d doesn\u2019t mean everything is fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Benjamin looks like a healthy, happy 3-year-old. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And in so many ways, he is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But behind that smile is a little body working so much harder than it should.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There are labs we watch closely. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Numbers we memorize. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Changes we notice that no one else would.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I wish people understood how much waiting becomes part of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Waiting for updates. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Waiting for labs. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Waiting for the call.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Waiting for something that could change everything at any moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And I wish people understood how complicated hope can feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You want to stay hopeful. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You need to stay hopeful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But hope also makes you vulnerable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because when something doesn\u2019t work out\u2014like getting all the way to the OR and having surgery canceled\u2014it hurts in a way that\u2019s hard to explain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You learn to hold hope carefully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To believe\u2026 but also protect your heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Most of all, I wish people understood how strong these kids are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Benjamin doesn\u2019t wake up thinking about diagnoses or lab values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">He wakes up ready to play. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ready to laugh. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ready to live.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And watching him\u2026 reminds me to do the same. And that God has a plan and perfect timing for his new kidney.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So if you\u2019re reading this, the biggest thing I would want you to know is this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your support matters more than you think.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your prayers matter. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your messages matter. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your shares matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because this journey can feel really heavy sometimes\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">and knowing we\u2019re not walking it alone makes all the difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\ud83d\udc9a<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are a lot of things I wish people understood about this journey. 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