The Best News Yet!
For years I have had a deep desire to donate a kidney to Cassidy... I’m fortunate to be a match, tests have shown I have strong kidney function, and I have been healthy throughout my life. It just made sense that I should be the donor, but we have had some setbacks along the way that have caused us to doubt whether it would be that easy. The setbacks were not black and white disqualifications, but “concerns” about the risks surrounding my long-term health and whether having only one kidney would be problematic for me in the future. I also received mixed messages from the various medical professionals we consulted. So the lack of clarity made it a frustrating process - being so close, but feeling so far away.
Years ago, around age 12, when we told Cassidy that her dad may be the one to give her a kidney, she reacted negatively. She didn’t want a boy’s kidney and thought it would be too big and had general anxiety about the whole thing. Then, one day she came home from school really happy and said to Renae (mom) “I was going to the bathroom, and God said, let your dad give you a kidney.” She went on to tell Renae how she felt good about it and that she wants dad’s kidney “because dad is strong and she needs a strong kidney.” It is a story that many of you have heard, but I tell it because of this… Not only did God give Cassidy clarity and peace in that moment, but He also spoke to me through her. I have quietly held onto this for the last 5 years even through discouragement and doubts.
It’s hard to describe what being so close, yet so far, has been like, but the great thing now is that I don’t have to - we just received word that I have been cleared to be a donor. We are so excited. And while this will be difficult for our family to endure, we are ready for Cassidy to have stable health and to get the energy boost she needs. Great things are coming. -- Nick Bogner